“Because it’s natural for all human beings to experience disappointment, failure, and difficulty, it’s very, very easy over time to get committed to our comfort zone that place of habit in which we know we can exist without effort. Over time, these habits are equivalent to slow death – if I am not learning, I am dying. When our comfort zone solidifies into habits, we get trapped in slow death, which eventually turns into negative emotions such as depression and anger. We have magnificent defense mechanisms that allow us to deny and project so that we don’t have to admit our slow deaths and deal with them.”
–Robert Quinn, Deep Change
I relate very much to this quote. In some ways I’m a risk taker and in other ways I am very conservative and play it safe.
I have a day job I’ve outlived, but it has been hard for me to leave it. I have a house that is too small and doesn’t have a private office/writing space that meets my needs, but it has been hard for me to move. I am slow to change my life in these areas.
On the other hand, I am committed to bringing poetry and all it represents to the world. I am doing my best to figure out a way to make a living at this. In doing so, I am bucking a cultural trend that values speed over depth and considers poetry as fluffy.
It is not easy to see my “magnificent defense mechanisms.” I have limiting belief systems and blind spots. It takes relationships with other people, who I deeply trust, to help me see.